The act of a person or thing that fails; a failure.
Have you ever felt so afraid of something that you decided not to try? I bet you have! Most people have. And everybody fails from time to time or has the fear to fail.
But worrying too much can stop great things from happening. Sometimes our fear is legitim and important but what is so bad about failing?
I personally have the fear of failing quite often. Then I feel small and as I’m not good enough to go further. I know how silly that is. Especially with my blog / IEB, I have big goals but sometimes I’m afraid to start because I think I can’t do it… Luckily I have great friends, who motivate me to step out of my comfort zone and go for what I want.
Signs that you might have fear of failing
Nobody likes to fail! But for some people, the chance of failing (or just the fear of it) makes trying things really hard for them and threats their motivation.
As a result, the fear of failing sabotages them and actually makes them fail more likely.
- Failing makes you worry about your ability to pursue the future you desire.
- You tend to tell people beforehand that you don’t expect to succeed in order to lower their expectations.
- Failing makes you worry about how smart or capable you are.
- Failing makes you worry that people will lose interest in you.
- Once you fail at something, you have trouble imagining what you could have done differently to succeed.
How to overcome the fear
- Think more positive. Certain happy thoughts and blitheful actions cause more overall satisfaction and help you to get out of your comfort zone.
- Always think about a plan B. If you have a backup plan in mind your more likely to go bold with your actual idea.
- What is the worst possible thing that could happen? And is it really so bad?
Think about the worst-case. Sometimes it’s a legitim fear but sometimes, however, the worst-case isn’t really that bad and you’re brave enough to try.
I believe it’s important to set yourself goals. And even if you can’t achieve your goals (in time or ever), it’s important that you try your best.
I’m by no means a Psychologist or Doctor! Everything in this post is what I experimented over time, or learned from books or mental health articles.
A big thank you to all the people in my life who always motivate me. Dear friends like Stella, Yari and my partner in crime <3
What are your strategies to handle the fear to fail?
Much love, Ilka x