Let’s talk: the fear of failing (you can do it)

 

The fear of failing Failing
noun
The act of a person or thing that fails; a failure.

 

Have you ever felt so afraid of something that you decided not to try? I bet you have! Most people have. And everybody fails from time to time or has the fear to fail.
But worrying too much can stop great things from happening. Sometimes our fear is legitim and important but what is so bad about failing?

I personally have the fear of failing quite often. Then I feel small and as I’m not good enough to go further. I know how silly that is. Especially with my blog / IEB, I have big goals but sometimes I’m afraid to start because I think I can’t do it… Luckily I have great friends, who motivate me to step out of my comfort zone and go for what I want.

 

Signs that you might have fear of failing The fear of failing

Nobody likes to fail! But for some people, the chance of failing (or just the fear of it) makes trying things really hard for them and threats their motivation.
As a result, the fear of failing sabotages them and actually makes them fail more likely.

  • Failing makes you worry about your ability to pursue the future you desire.
  • You tend to tell people beforehand that you don’t expect to succeed in order to lower their expectations.
  • Failing makes you worry about how smart or capable you are.
  • Failing makes you worry that people will lose interest in you.
  • Once you fail at something, you have trouble imagining what you could have done differently to succeed.

 

 

How to overcome the fear
  • Think more positive. Certain happy thoughts and blitheful actions cause more overall satisfaction and help you to get out of your comfort zone.
  • Always think about a plan B. If you have a backup plan in mind your more likely to go bold with your actual idea.
  • What is the worst possible thing that could happen? And is it really so bad?
    Think about the worst-case. Sometimes it’s a legitim fear but sometimes, however, the worst-case isn’t really that bad and you’re brave enough to try.

I believe it’s important to set yourself goals. And even if you can’t achieve your goals (in time or ever), it’s important that you try your best.


I’m by no means a Psychologist or Doctor! Everything in this post is what I experimented over time, or learned from books or mental health articles.

A big thank you to all the people in my life who always motivate me. Dear friends like Stella, Yari and my partner in crime <3


What are your strategies to handle the fear to fail?

Much love, Ilka x

 

 

6 Comments

  1. 1. October 2017 / 05:55

    After I originally commented I clicked the -Notify me when new feedback are added- checkbox and now each time a comment is added I get 4 emails with the same comment. Is there any means you can take away me from that service? Thanks!

    • 1. October 2017 / 09:53

      Oh no. I’m so sorry to hear you had such trouble and annoying emails. I’ll check right now and hope I can fix it. So so sorry. xxx

  2. 26. November 2016 / 22:44

    Great post!

    Agree. When I have an idea, usually fear attacks me and makes me feel insecure, I try to think the same you mentioned in the post: why not? what is the worst thing that could happen? and usually, the answer for this is: I would be as I am now, so, not so bad.

    I also think, that sometimes, you are overwhelmed thinking how far you are from your goals or the amount of work you have to do reach it. In this case, I try to start small, with a simple task and then find my pace.

    I believe that is normal to be scary when starting something new, fear mix with excitement and passion is what life is made of.

    Leti

    • 26. November 2016 / 23:01

      Thank you Leti, I’m glad you enjoyed the post.

      You are so so right. And I feel exactly the same. Reaching your goals can be scary. Stepping out of your comfort zone can be scary.
      But when we never take the risk we can’t achieve or dreams!
      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Much love, Ilka x

  3. 24. November 2016 / 12:03

    You are no failure and never will. You are the love of my life – we are friends, unicorn riders, moon dancers. I love your blog, it’s beautiful clean style and your wonderful words and images. Whenever you feel like failing, call me and I will tell you how great and special you are. Because I love you and always will.

    • 24. November 2016 / 18:37

      I know. But sometimes I feel like I can’t achieve certain stuff (that’s silly. but I guess it’s only human).
      Thank you love! And thank you for your kind words.
      Much love, Ilka x

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