How to stop comparing yourself to others? What a great question. Because everybody struggles with comparison from time to time -in fact, it’s one of the most common daily habits that human possess. We compare almost everything, the relationships we have, the cloth we wear, our homes and even or online/social media presence
(just to name a few). But it’s important that we know who we are and that we appreciate what we have and do. Amy Poehler once said: The earlier you learn that you should focus on what you have, and not obsess about what you don’t have, the happier you will be. And I couldn’t agree more, comparison makes you:
- feel less valuable or good
- unhappy with what you have
- And is a total waste of time!
But how to stop comparing yourself to others
Here are some tips:
Be happy for others
– life is not a competition
Instead of being jealous or comparative over somebody else’s success, be happy for the person and feel inspired by their achievement.
I find it especially helpful to build up a relationship with like minded people and root for their success. Building a supporting tribe or girl gang is so powerful and uplifting.
SUPPORTING ANOTHER’S SUCCESS WON’T EVER DAMPEN YOURS!
So keep in mind: being excited about the win of others is an amazing thing, that what keeps you away from feeling bitter and help’s you build wonderful relationships with fellow girl bosses.
Stop self- compassion
Don’t you ever feel sorry for yourself! When thoughts like “why can’t I have that” or “my work isn’t as good or important as hers/his” kick in, stay focused. Self-compassion leads you nowhere! You have to work for what you want, always. Because that’s what everybody is doing. Treat yourself with kindness! It’s totally normal that you’re not happy and strong every day (because you’re human) but by comparing yourself to somebody else, who maybe is in the middle of something and your just at the beginning, doesn’t bring you closer to your goals.
Be as you wish to seem
This is my mantra. I live after these six little words. They remind me to go after the life I want to live, hustle and behave the way I want to be seen.
The only person you should compare yourself with is the person you were yesterday! I always try to be a better, more happy and optimistic person as I was the day before.
Unplug from time to time
Nowadays most of as are constantly connected to social media. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE SOCIAL MEDIA. It’s a wonderful, fun world, where you can find true friends, get inspired and enjoy the creativity and love that is shared. But it isn’t 100% the real world. Especially on social media (like Instagram and Pinterest) we share the perfect moments. So unplug from time to time and enjoy some quality time to reload your batteries. Next week I’ll upload a post on how to break your digital habits. So stay tuned for that.
I hope you have an amazing week and that you stop comparing yourself to others.
Because you’re awesome just the way you are!
Much love, Ilka x